The Greatest Gift

Your children are the greatest gift God will give to you, and their souls the heaviest responsibility He will place in your hands. Take time with them, teach them to have faith in God. Be a person in whom they can have faith. When you are old, nothing else you've done will have mattered as much.

The Best Of Both Worlds

The Best Of Both Worlds

 This was a hard post. This was a hard picture, a picture that has been a long time coming. It has taken nearly 7 years to get to this point. 4 parents at games and events. We communicate more about the kids. We still don’t always see eye to eye. No where near 100% yet......... it's a work in progress. We are not in love. A lot of the time we don't agree. We are NOT and will NEVER th

e best of friends. Most of the time we can't even even stand to be around each other. But you know what we are??

 
We are their family. We are forever connected because of our children. They deserve to have a relationship with their mother, father, and step parents regardless of how you feel about the other party. Once you have kids together you become a family. No marriage license/divorce certificate will ever change that. Once you are with someone with kids you become part of their family. There will be times all 4 if you will be at one event. Be civil. Even though this is difficult, don't give up. Your continued effort to be civil with your ex benefits all of your children. It lowers their stress level and allows them to be confident in their perception of the future. And with time, communication between you will get easier. 

The greatest gift divorced parents can give their children is the sense that they’re still a family and for them to see that the new spouse's are also a part of that family. It hasn’t been easy and will continue to require work on everyone’s part. Y'all need to understand that your children love all of you. They want you all to be happy in your grown up lives. Most of all they will be troubled when you fight in front of them. Keep your disagreements between yourselves. We can make this what we want to. There are no rules or limits. The building blocks for your child’s future relationships start at home. Think about this and act accordingly, for you are all important factors in the child's life.

MY CHILDREN TAUGHT ME

I am so ungrateful at times. But one things is for sure I will ALWAYS be grateful GOD chose me to be their mother!!!! They have taught me PATIENCE. It's impossible to raise happy, loving, forgiving children without patience. Patience when waiting for your turn in the bathroom. Patience when they are screaming and fighting all day. Patience when that little one dragging the purple unicorn is walking slow but sweetly to the van when you are already running late.

 They have taught me FORGIVENESS. They showed me to forgive even when someone doesn't deserve it. They have forgave me when I forgot about school project. They have forgave me when I that time I selfishly yelled at them to be quite cause I had a headache. They have taught me UNCONDITIONAL LOVE. No matter how many times you fail, no matter how many times you mess up or forget they will always have this undying love for you.

They taught me to be SELFLESS. You can't be selfish mother. It's no longer about you when you have children. They have taught me KINDNESS. PEACE. JOY. COMPASSION......They are sadden when they see that sick child or animal on TV. They go sit with the elderly on Sunday who may need that extra loving.

They taught me the LOVE OF GOD!! I see GOD in them daily. I see GOD using them to draw me closer to him. In those moments of troubled times and pain when I doubt God.... when I am asking where he actually is....in walks one of the kids with a whole message from God....saying "HERE I AM, I HAVE BEEN HERE ALL ALONG."

<<Cause SAHMS are so lazy>>

So I overheard  two "working moms" talking the other day........And I was about 10 seconds away from going crazy on these ladies!! One said she would go nuts if she spent every hour of every day with her kids. I guess you are asking yourself if you read that correctly .....Right?? Yes, you read it correct. Then the other said "They don't do anything all day anyway, they have it so easy".  One went on to say housewives are lazy.  So apparently Stay At Home Moms do noting all day long!! Who knew?? I don't know about anyone else but my life as a SAHM is MENTALLY & PHYSICALLY exhausting. Its the most challenging thing that I have ever done. I wished I could say that I get to sit on my behind watching Netflix all day. Lol.

 Being a SAHM isn't considered a "JOB" to most. Why? Because you don't get a paycheck every week/two weeks?? We get paid in messy kisses and big hugs. Its not those fat paychecks you get....but no amount of money would ever buy back the time I would miss with my kids if I worked a "JOB". As a SAHM don't have a set schedule that you have to work. You can't just put in 8 hours and just be done. When you are a SAHM the jobs are endless. You are the cook, the maid, the nurse, the teacher, the ATM, the alarm clock, the referee, the taxi, the therapist.......it goes on and on.  

You are on call 24/7. 365 days a year. Your work hours are endless. You have no breaks. You get no vacation time. You have no sick days. If you are sick you have to suck it up and tend to your family/house as normal. We always have someone needing us or wanting something from us. We give our kids love, time, and our energy. Mothering is a job and a gift at the same time. And If you really think being a stay at home mom is so easy.....then why don't you try?? Yes, I am a stay at home mom. That doesn't mean I am lazy, stupid, or uneducated. I work hard every day.....24 hours a day. But can honestly say " I LOVE MY JOB"  Can you??

"The day my son was bullied"

Almost 11 years of motherhood....and nothing, I mean NOTHING will prepare you for the day your child comes home crying over being bullied. This hurt me so bad!! Bullying is a big problem. Most say name calling and teasing just part of growing up, It is often overlooked as kids just being kids. Bullying can leave a deep emotional scar. Well what about when it becomes more than words?? What about when words become hits??
 

Kids can be so brutal. As parents we think we have this all planned out from the moment we knew we would be parents. We do everything in our power to raise our children to be Kind and Caring. We want them to have Self control, Wisdom, Courage, and Compassion towards others. We want them to be NICE. Every parent wants to raise *nice* children. Don't get me wrong, I like my kids to be nice. But what about the times they can no longer be nice?? What about the times they are being hit or shoved around??

 This is such a hard place in life for me as a mother. My Mom raised me not to take crap from anyone. She always said "Do not start a fight, but you darn sure better finish it" and "Only hit if they hit first." Well when is it okay to hit back?? I don't want to teach my children to be violent but at the same time I don't want them to be walked over or pushed around. We always hear "tell a adult first." The truth is telling a adult only works about 50% of the time. What is a child to do when the adults keep overlooking them??  As I have said before I do NOT condone hitting. But bullies will always be bullies unless they are stood up to. How do we bully proof our kids?? I am lost and would love any advice? I have found a great website every parent/teacher should have on hand.  A TIP SHEET FROM THE SITE BELOW

 

@ STOMP Out Bullying.COM

 

TIP SHEET

Bullying is an intentional, aggressive and repeated behavior that involves an imbalance of power or strength. The various forms of Bullying are:

Physical

Verbal

Emotional

Sexual

Racist Bullying

Cyberbullying

Hazing

We also know that Bullying is a problem that affects millions of students of all races and classes. 1 out of 4 kids is bullied and 42% of kids have been bullied while online. Child and teen Bullying and Cyber-bullying are at an all-time high. Some kids are so tormented that suicide has become an alternative for them. It has everyone worried. Not just the kids on its receiving end, but the parents, teachers and others who may not understand how extreme bullying can get.

• 1 out of 4 kids is Bullied
• 9 out of 10 LGBT students experienced harassment at school
• Child and teen Bullying and Cyberbullying are at an all-time high
• Some kids are so tormented that suicide has become an alternative for them
• 1 out of 5 kids admits to being a bully, or doing some "Bullying"
• 8% of students miss at least 1 day of class per month for fear of Bullies
• 43% fear harassment in the bathroom at school
• A poll of teens ages 12-17 proved that they think violence increased at their schools
• 282,000 students are physically attacked in secondary schools each month
• More youth violence occurs on school grounds as opposed to on the way to school
• 80% of the time, an argument with a bully will end up in a physical fight
• 1/3 of students surveyed said they heard another student threaten to kill someone
• 2 out of 3 say they know how to make a bomb, or know where to get the information to do it
• Playground statistics - Every 7 minutes a child is bullied. Adult intervention -4% Peer intervention - 11%. No intervention - 85%.
  

What We Know About Cyberbullying

• Depending on the age group, up to 40% of students say they have been digitally harassed
• 35% of kids have been threatened online. Nearly 1 in 5 have had it happen more than once
• 21% of kids have received mean or threatening e-mail or other messages
• 58% of kids admit someone has said mean or hurtful things to them online. More than 4 out of 10 say it has happened more than   once
• 53% of kids admit having said something mean or hurtful to another person online. More than 1 in 3 have done it more than once.
• 58% have not told their parents or an adult about something mean or hurtful that happened to them online

Kids in a love Triangle

*KIDS STUCK IN A LOVE TRIANGLE*

 

PLEASE LISTEN TO THE SONG BELOW

 

https://youtu.be/7FUVdTEQxu8

 



This song.....oh this song!!!! Today is such a emotional day. I burst into tears when this came on. It's their visitation with their daddy this weekend. I never imagined that I would be that mom. That DIVORCED mom who has to basically share her children. I knew first hand that growing up with divorced parents is not something I wanted for my children. Children get caught in a triangle.

 

 But here we are. Jackson running through the house looking for big brother Blake to help him with a game. I didn't want this life for them. Jackson asking why he can't go Memaws with them. I didn't want this life for them. My children only being kissed by one parent every night. I didn't want that for them. I didn't want them bringing him school projects of their family and having to explain to their friends why they have one mom but two drawings of dads in the picture when they ask. And that they have a sister but she don't live with them. I don't like waking up to check on my kids and them not be there. I don't like that one or two Sundays a month when they are not in church on Sunday morning.

 

It's this feeling of failing as a parent. But you(I) have NOT failed!!!! All families have problems. Divorce is just one problem that some of us have. Marriage is like a rope. Some are strong and some are so weak that they break. Then there is kids. Children are diamonds that will last forever. With strong influence from both parents, your children will absolutely sparkle. You have lost a marriage, not your children. Not the ability to be a GREAT mother.

 

 Your marriage doesn't determine your abilities to be good parents period. If anything, your ability to remain a good mom or dad throughout stress and heartache of a divorce should make you that much proud. Parents if you are going through divorce, don’t waste time worrying about how divorce will affect your children and instead pour all of that energy into self-control and self-awareness as you raise them. Keep negative words and thoughts between the adults. Your kids are like a little dry sponge, soaking up everything that you put out.

 

 Their grown hearts will be full of the things they hear as children. And their future will be shaped by the decisions you make. You as their parents hold their future in your hands.If you are a parent who is committed to creating stable environment for your kids....then they will be fine. At least as fine as everyone else’s kids in todays world. Lol.

Leaving behind in 2016

New years is a wonderful time of our life, it’s when we celebrate the new upcoming year and say good bye to the previous year.



"Things I learned in 2016"

1. 2016 was HARD for us all!!

2. Sometimes friends treat you better than family.

3. Loving yourself is important!!

4. God will still be there when all else fails.

5. The most important things in life have nothing to do with actual things.

6. There is a blessing in every lesson.

7. Some people aren’t really all that they “post” to be.

8. Death gives no warning.

9. Life is unexpected.

10. Stay away from negative people. They have a problem for every solution.

11. Blogging is actually hard.

12. A divorce can take longer than a year!!

13. Children are so forgiving.

14. Don't put off till tomorrow what you can get done today!!

15. Moms do make mistakes.

Let us all welcome the coming New Year with open hearts and remember all the moments from 2016 that made us who we are.