Why you shouldnt marry him.

Stop Girl, STOP, Read the signs!!!!

Unfortunately, there aren’t classes in school teaching us how to choose a great romantic partner.  Marriage is a HUGE commitment. It should be for a lifetime. But lets face the facts.......It sometimes ends in divorce. If you are thinking about getting married make sure no signs point to "you shouldn't marry him."  Look for the clues.

 If he cant hold a job girl you better dash . I don’t know about you but I do not want a guy that I have to support. If your boyfriend cannot hold a job, don’t enter into a marriage with him. Of course, we have all had jobs that don’t work out. However, if your boyfriend is being constantly fired or quitting jobs, that deserves some serious consideration. That is probably a big clue to you as to what marriage is going to be like. If he is always lying. I think we could all agree on the fact that any great relationship is based on pure honesty. If you are not able to be straightforward with him and if he has to hide a part of his life from you, the talk about marriage shouldn't even come up. Marriage should be a commitment between two best friends, who hide nothing from each other no matter how awful it may be. If he will lie about something small then he will about the big stuff. 

  If he is controlling. They almost like to 'claim their property' and make it official. His desire for control will only grow from there, he will prevent you from seeing your friends and even family. Proposal should be an act of unconditional love, claiming that you are the one he wants to grow old with.

You don’t trust each other. If one of you is compelled to read the other’s texts and check their Facebook and give the third-degree after a night out, you need to get to the root of why there’s so much snooping. Is it because you truly believe your partner is being shady? Is it his insecurity showing through? Whatever the reason, it’s not a good sign. (And if your partner is constantly checking in on your personal accounts, you could be in an abusive relationship).

If a man is verbally, physically, or mentally abusive . What he does, and not what he says, is what matters here. So, please leave any situation where your mental, emotional, and/or physical well-being is in danger. That also goes for the men who abuse their own bodies by using drugs or drinking too much. If you two fight all the time when you are dating, chances are it'll be 10 times worse when you are married. If you cant work out problems while you are just dating then its best not to marry. If your boyfriend is mean to you. You know that person who insults you and then says they are “joking” and that you’re “too sensitive” when your face turns red and your eyes start filling with tears? Yeah, that person should not be your life partner.

  

If your partner has a history of being a player, leaving a trail of short-lived flings and broken hearts behind him or her, you should definitely think about marrying the person.

 If he cringes whenever he is around your child. Or he screams bloody murder when Sue or Bob touches his laptop or his new Nike shoes. Eventually, you will get the feeling that not only does he hate your children, but he also hates all children! This spells trouble.And a future divorce.

Never marry someone hoping they will change. Marry someone because they already have changed. Not only do you need to reconsider marrying him , you need to reconsider dating him. So, apply these tips into your current relationship and be truthful about who you are, what you need, and your partner. Don’t let the pressure of wanting to tie the knot weigh so heavily on your shoulders that you marry the wrong man.

Mom is going to lose her mind.

                                                                         "M.O.M"

Mind Of Motherhood

A moment of peace is all I ask for. I was in the bathroom trying to go pee and all I can hear is kids running through the house, One making his sister cry by shooting her with a drat gun, one crying because he don't want to eat his supper. Then I overheard my oldest yelling at the younger 3 and telling them to calm down because momma is about to yell at everyone. At that time my little one (with his red crying face) comes in the bathroom asking me if  I can open a pack of fruit snacks for him. Never mind the fact that I am 1.) sitting on the pot trying to pee in peace and 2.) He didn't eat supper. Why do you want junk, when you cant eat your healthy food I spent two hours cooking. No, if you want a snack then you go eat your food. At this moment I wanted to pull my hair and scream as loud as I can.

Yes, Your mother is really about to lose it!! I am about to lose it because when I went to the bathroom I sat in a big ol wet spot. Yes, it was pee. Not only can my 10 and 8 year old sons not lift up the seat when they pee, they sure and heck don't bother to wipe of their mess when they are done. Oh we will just leave it for momma to clean up or sit in. Don't tell me you didn't see that pee on the seat!! Grab a wet wipe and clean it up yourself!! I am about to lose my mind over something brown smeared on the door handle. I am not sure if it is chocolate or poop.

Yes, I am about to lose my mind. I listen to you complain about a flies being in the house, but I have told you all 287 times to shut the DANG front door. You are not born in a barn. You act as if you was but I assure you was born in a hospital.

 

I am about to lose it because I walk in the kitchen and find Hot pocket and Ramen noodle wrappers all one my counter top. The trash can is right there!!! It is actually closer to put the paper in the trash than walk across the room and put it on the counter. I am about to lose it because there is a two week old cup of spoiled milk on your night stand. I found a bag of soggy Cheetos under the couch. There is always someone leaving open food in the refrigerator. Put the DANG top back on ! And if you put food in there put it in a container. Is it really that hard??

I am about to lose it because here it is 8:30 and time for bed all the sudden everyone is hungry. Everyone is thirsty. And you tell me you cant go to bed cause you forgot to do your homework. When throughout the day I asked you if you had homework. All you say is "Oh, I forgot." There are only so many bedtime request that I can take a night. And no one can sleep in their own beds. They always end up in the living room.
I am about to lose my mind because everyone is always in everyone else's business non stop. My oldest thinks he is everyone's boss because he is the oldest. My middle son has middle child syndrome and thinks he has to aggravate all the time. My daughter thinks because she is a girl she can hit the boys without them hitting her back. When they do hit back she yells and wants to be a tattle tale. And my baby.......well he is a story himself. He is the baby and is spoiled rotten. and tries and most of the time does get to get away with everything.

Most of all I am about to lose my mine because they are all in school. As much as I complain when they are home I miss them when they are all in school. I am home alone during the day and I cant relax. All I can do is think about them.

 I have been dealing with this daily for 10 years now. So yes my children Momma is about to lose her mind. And at this point I think I have that right. So go play.....go watch TV, or get on your tablet. Momma is going to hide in my dark closet, cry her eyes out and eat a whole box of Thin Mints all by myself.

What makes a man a dad??

"M.O.M"

Mind Of Motherhood

My little girl asked me if she can call my partner daddy. It threw me off guard for a second. We have been together for 5 and 1/2 years. So she was just a baby. She don't remember him ever not being there. I paused. I didn't know how to answer her. So I told her she had a daddy. She said I know daddy is my father, but Michael is my daddy. I asked her "why do you want to called him daddy?"

 Her response is one I will never forget. She said "He kinda is my daddy already, he takes care of me, he hugs and kisses me every day, and always hugs me before he goes to work, and   umh   he tells me he loves me just like he does love Jack, he helps me learn stuff like riding my bike ." I said "is that all Molly?" And she said "No, he buys me clothes, and he makes me doll houses and me laugh, and he lets us watch him play the game, and umh sometimes he spanks us when we are bad like mommys and daddy do , but it don't hurt (then she starts laughing), he takes me to the dr when I am sick, he helps me with my homework, he sings with me in his big truck, and he takes me to school in it to." Then she kissed me and went to her room.

I have contemplated this question, “What makes a man a dad?”  all night after that. In pondering this question the whole time I am comparing two men. One from my past and the One who is my future. One man does not seem to care, He does nothing for them, no financial support, and is so unstable. The other is a stable man who stepped up to care for 3 children not biologically his. He gives his all to my kids, all that any child could ever ask for. He shows them pure love and the appropriate discipline when needed. Molly wants to call him “daddy". I am seeing the heart of a dad. He is  not perfect by no means because no parent is. I know I'm not. But he tries to be the best for them. He gives his all. Some will say making the child makes you a dad. I strongly disagree. An egg and a sperm make a baby. But it don't make you a mom or dad. A dad is more than just helping making the child. A dad provides for his children. He will do what it takes to make sure they are taken care of. A dad loves his kids and tells them daily.

So Who is the real dad here?? What makes a daddy, really a daddy?? I am positive it is not the genetics, it is the heart’s desire to be a father. It is the motivation he gives. Its the love that he gives them. It is the effort he puts in his caring for the well being and the good of our kids. That id what makes a man truly a daddy.



"Do You Have A Tomboy?"

"M.O.M"

Mind Of Motherhood

This is Molly Beth.

My 7 year old daughter. My "ONLY" daughter!! She is sassy. She is strong willed and stubborn, but she has to be when living in a house with three brothers. Being the only girl in the family does not always mean that she gets special treatment by mom and dad. It is a combination of a blessing and a curse. It means being called tomboy and hours later a princess. Nothing ever seems peaceful to her when her brothers are around. They are always making fun. Jumping out and scaring her. They call her names. They love to annoy everyone. Over the years she has learned to evolve to keep up with them in anyway she can. Tomboys don't want to be a boys, they just want to keep up with them. and be treated equal while being  girl.

 Anything a boy can do she said she can do.

Like dressing up as a transformer for Halloween. Adding her own touch because she is her own person. She likes what she likes. Who am I to tell her no, she cant because she is a girl. Empower your tomboy in the way she expresses herself, through her physical attributes.

Even playing FOOTBALL!!! The boys were so aggravated that a girl was playing with them. (as you see in the picture) They don’t want to be boys, they just want the same opportunities to the fun games that boys are automatically given just because they are a boy.

Yes, I said football. My only daughter plays football. I questioned myself on if I should let her play or not. She said it wasn't fair that the boys got to. Momma gave in. Momma let her make her own choice.

Not only did she play. She won the CCFFL super bowl. She beat her own brothers in football. 1ST place!! She is really just one of the boys.

She does get to dress up baby brother every once and a while. ;)

Let them choose. Let them be kids. Let them have the same right as any other kids, regardless of their gender. Girls just wanna have fun also!!

"There is a Story"

 

"M.O.M"

Mind Of Motherhood

 

 

But there's a story behind everything. How a picture got on a wall.

 

 

 

How a scar got on your face(like that dang dog that left a forever scar on my baby's face). Sometimes the stories are simple, and sometimes they are hard and heartbreaking. But behind all your stories there is always your mother's story, because hers is where yours begin. My sweet baby. The dog chewed his favorite toy!! Like MOST FAVORITE EVER!! He cried and cried. It broke his little heart. So mommy had to mend his little heart and shark as best as I could. Just to know that I helped that sweet face smile again is amazing, a story itself. Mommy tried Jack.

 

 

YES, I HAVE 4 KIDS!!

 

 "M.O.M"

Mind Of  Motherhood

 

 

I have four kids, So most assume we:
1. We are Catholic.
2. Like to have sex all the time.

3. That we don't know what birth control is.
 4. We have them to draw in state benefits.

 

Having four kids might seem like a lot to you. I grew up in a family of  ten, so my family still doesn’t seem that big to me. The other day a lady stopped me and said "Are they all yours?' Nope, we just take all the neighborhood kids to the store with us. Lol. We hear "Oh my, you have your hands full", Or "You must stay busy all the time". Strangers have even asked if we planned to have so many kids and if we want more. I smile, thinking that it's really no else's business how many kids we have. I can go on and on. When my kids were little (toddlers), I was exhausted and overwhelmed. (I still am exhausted) I got easily upset, angry, and even annoyed by everyone's comments towards us. My feelings were hurt by the judgment I got.

According to most people the only explanations for having a big family are the ones that I mentioned above. Don't get me wrong, I have no problems with any of those reasons, they just don’t accurately describe us.You can plan for one or two kids. You can set a goal. But a lot of crazy things happen in life and things never turn out exactly like you hoped or planned for. Life is too unexpected for things to fall perfectly into our plans. My personal favorite is ......“You know how this happens don’t you?” I wanted to reply, “Nope, sure don't.” And please don't ever say that to anyone. It's kinda rude. It implies that having four kids is somehow bad, or that me having four kids is somehow weird. Both of which may hold some truth, but it's still rude and hurtful to some. I didn't plan on having three kids by the time I was 20. And I found out we were having "Opps" when I was 22. Four kids by 23! The beauty of being a mom is that no matter how many children you have, they all have love. We don't divide love between them, We multiply it, and it's still whole LOVE. Every single one of our kids has a unique story. I will share each of theirs later on in the blog. If you have no kids or if you have ten kids, you have your story like we have ours. And I realize , now that I am nearing thirty, every journey comes with "opps". They all come with random shocks, laughter, surprises, sadness, and sadly they even come with tragedy. We all have "LIFE" plans, and then inevitably those plans unravel, and by the grace of God somehow things come back together in beautiful and unexpected ways. I had not planned on four kids by 23, but God knew that I needed them. And yes, I post about how they drive me crazy some days. I complain about the way my body  looks after having four kids. But I love my kids and I wouldn't trade any of them for anything.

Now that I am older (wiser as some would say) the rude comments stopped hurting me. Because now I understand how special it is to have a big family. Having four kids is a crazy amount of HARD work. Our life is most defiantly not all sunshine and daisies. At the end of the day we are together and happy. Everyone has a partner when it comes time to play. I love my big family because of all the memories we share. Never has there been a dull moment. Our family is big enough to keep each other company, but small enough to stop chaos in its tracks. And when I tuck my babies into bed at night, I feel so blessed for the family I've been given. I love all four of my kids. We do plan on more.....some day. So my family is only going to get bigger, and anyone that comes around my family has to love the chaos just as much as I do. I have learned how to stay calm in a crazy environment, how to love unconditionally, and most importantly, how to be proud of being a MOTHER OF FOUR!!

 

Mountain of Laundry

 

 "M.O.M"

Mind Of  Motherhood

If you were to drop by my house you'd have a hard time trying to find the couch. Its covered by the mountain of laundry. I think we all have it one time or another. This big heaping pile of clean laundry.

 

 

 Every day I tell myself , If I can only get caught up, then I can keep it up. Boy was I ever wrong!!!!!!! I was so nervous to blog this at first. It seems so embarrassing to me. But lets just face it, I have 4 kids and a man. We have 6 in our household. This is a NEVER ending thing. This picture is what I see daily in my life. Yes, this embarrassing picture of laundry is in my living room for all to see. You might be thinking it was all washed today and is just waiting to be put up?? WRONG!! This mountain has been sitting here week after week. Steady getting bigger and bigger, a few days it gets smaller as we all dig in it looking for things to wear. But for the most part it GROWS. *insert SIGH here*  How do you moms keep up with all the laundry when you have 20 million other things going on??  I will gladly take advice from other mothers who have conquered the MOUNTIAN OF LAUNDRY!!!!!